First, put in the work—for yourself.
Before focusing on your partner, Aron suggests you pay attention to yourself. “A happy person will make their partner happy, too,” he says. Search for any red flags within, and ask yourself whether you’re dealing with issues such as depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem that should be addressed—or if your communication skills allow you to hear and be responsive to your partner’s needs.
Plan a fun activity once a week.
Way past the honeymoon phase? An easy method toward rekindling the flame is to try something new together. You don’t have to partake in a thrill sport like skydiving, but simple pastimes like trying a new cuisine or taking a cooking class can increase passion. As a result, you’ll learn to associate thrill and excitement with your partner, says Aron.
Celebrate even the smallest successes.
Let your partner know their achievements are worth commemorating when something good (like a promotion, or a wave of luck) happens to them. “That has a more positive effect than just supporting them during periods of hardships,” Aron notes. To do so, plan a special homemade dinner or write them a card as a way of shouting your excitement from the mountaintops