1. YOU DON'T LISTEN
People talk when they feel listened to
2. YOU DON'T MAKE TIME
If you are constantly elusive or absent, when do you expect your spouse to confide in you? Real talk happens when a couple shares quality time
3. YOU BELITTLE YOUR SPOUSE
If each time your spouse tells you what is important to your spouse but you make it look petty, you discourage your spouse from confiding in you. Never look down on your spouse or undermine what is special to your spouse
4. YOU GOSSIP
No one loves to tell their spouse private matters and then the spouse goes to disclose those matters to third parties
5. YOU ARE SELFISH
Do you always make the conversations about only you?
6. YOU DON'T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE SERIOUSLY
When your spouse tells you big dreams, do you believe in your spouse? When your spouse shares with you weighty matters do you mock your spouse?
7. YOU TWO AREN'T THAT CLOSE
Maybe you two are a couple by name, maybe even married; but you are not really vulnerable and comfortable with each other. How sad
8. YOU CONSTANTLY HURT YOUR SPOUSE
It is difficult to confide in someone who keeps breaking your heart
9. YOU ATTACK YOUR SPOUSE
When your spouse tells you matters of the past, inner struggles or fears of the future; do you turn against your spouse and use that privileged information to attack your spouse?
10. YOUR SPOUSE HAS ANOTHER CONFIDANT
Maybe your spouse has someone else he/she is comfortable talking to other than you; so why confide in you?
11. YOU DON'T CONFIDE IN YOUR SPOUSE TOO
Don't expect your spouse to trust you and open up to you if you don't trust and open up to your spouse
12. YOU DON'T BOTHER
You don't even care to know who your spouse is or how your spouse is. If you don't show interest, your spouse will withdraw and hold back
13. YOU ARE TOO SARCASTIC
Check your sarcasm levels, it can put your spouse off
14. YOU JUDGE YOUR SPOUSE
Your spouse wants your understanding, to feel loved and covered, not judged and condemned
15. YOU ARE NOT RECEPTIVE
If you make your spouse feel what he/she says is not enough; your spouse will refrain from telling you more. If your spouse gives you a compliment but you act like the compliment isn't enough, your spouse will find you ungrateful
16. YOU DON'T ENJOY EACH OTHER
Do you love each other's company, do you smile, laugh? Or is there tension between you two, is the mood plastic? People open up when in a relaxed, warm, fun and loving environment