There are people who speak better to outsiders than they speak to their own family. They're very nice and charming out in the world but when they go home they're mean and rude. Reason? Because they can get away with it, or so they think. Out in the world if they speak unkindly they suffer consequences immediately; at work they'll get punished and they may lose the job; among their friends they'll get immediate disapproval and risk of being alienated. But at home they know nobody will leave and so they get presumptuous.

This is why the biggest killer of relationships and marriages today is not infidelity but complacency. It's when you no longer care about your partners feelings. You no longer want to work at making them feel adored, respected, seen and supported. You instead dump unkind language on them.

The truth is that your loved ones may be long suffering but they're not forever suffering. Eventually they will get tired and get you out of their life, and 'there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth,' or deep regrets.

The rule in life is that whatever you mismanage you always lose. Anything you take for granted will be taken away. The most important people are your family because they form the base of your life. That's where you stand to face the world. To assume them is to shoot yourself in the foot.

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