Remember all you have to do to get what's meant for you is to be you. If you look back and realise you've not been yourself for a while just check what you've trying to fit into your life. If you've been unstable and triggered and anxious, if you've felt diminished and unsure and you had to fight for acknowledgement, whatever it was you were rubbing after is not meant for you. Granted, even what's meant for you will require work but that's very different from struggle. Work means investing effort to grow what's aligned with you and seated properly in your life. Struggle means spending enormous effort to remain in spaces that are uncomfortable and detrimental for your well-being, primarily because there are moments of pleasure there or you're too afraid of not being in anything. You'd rather be in a bad fit instead of being by yourself and so the root of your problem is within you.

Again, things that are meant for you will never reuire you to act in ways that feel foreign to you.