Advice to married sisters to me and you

Mydaughter, you are about to leave the
home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk,
to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar.
By marrying you he
has become a master over you, so be like a
servant to him, and he will become like aservant to you

Take from me ten qualities, which will be a
provision and a reminder for you.

`The first and second of them are: be content
in his company, and listen to and obey him,
for contentment brings peace of mind, and
listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah .

The third and fourth of them are: make sure
that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smellfrom you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is
better than the rarest perfume.

`The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare
his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging
hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing
his sleep will make him angry.

`The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his
servants (or employees) andchildren, and take care
of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that
you appreciate him, and taking care of his
children and servants shows good management. `
The
ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his
orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never
feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if
you disobey him, his heart will be filled with
hatred towards you.

`Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and donot show
sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former
shows a lack of judgement, whilst the latter will make
him unhappy.

`Show him as much honour and respect as
you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and
conversation.

`Know, O my daughter, that you will not
achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure
before your own, and his wishes before
yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (SWT) choose what is best for you and protect you.

She was taken to her husband, and the
marriage was a great success; she gave birth to kings who ruled
after him.
This advice clearly included everything that
one could think of as regards thegood manners that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable
companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be
taken as the standard for every young girl
who is about to get married. Dear sisters, take the best out of the above piece of advice.