“Instead of just touching the Holy Water lightly and then making a cross, he looked around to see if people were watching before he left with a whole container of Holy Water.”

“I invited him to pray with me at the Grotto. He saw Holy Water. I have never seen a man make so many crosses all over his body with Holy Water. I wondered what sins he had committed.”

DEAR LADY, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU..

1. If you have small boobs or a small behind, don't let the media and music videos make you feel not hot enough. Sexiness is not defined by the size of your body parts. You look sexy just the way you are

2. There is nothing wrong with you if you are not married yet. You're not incomplete just because you don't have a man. Your marriage will come, you were created for more than marriage

3. There is nothing wrong with you if you are divorced. You are not a failure. The world does not know how much you loved your husband, how much you fought for your marriage, all you went through and circumstances that forced you to separate

4. There is nothing wrong with you if the man you wanted to love turned you down. One day a man who knows your worth will come

5. There is nothing wrong with you if you were cheated on by your man. He chose to be unfaithful, don't you feel unattractive; you are a keeper, he just foolishly chose not to keep you

6. There is nothing wrong with you if you have stretchmarks. Your skin had to expand when your curves formed and when you got pregnant; celebrate your womanhood

7. There is nothing wrong with you if you have wrinkles. Those beautiful lines look so cute and real when you laugh and smile, embrace them. Thank God for the years you have lived

8. There is nothing wrong with you if you don't have children. You are not a lesser woman because you have no child. The mothers are not more special than you, children are a blessing from God not an entitlement. You will get your own or if you so wish, adopt

9. There is nothing wrong with you when people mock you saying your standards are high, you know your worth and God will grant you the desires of your heart; dream big

10. There is nothing wrong with you when you lose fake friends. Better one true friend than a long list of fake friends

11. There is nothing wrong with you when you have stayed single for long yet you desire love. Love will find you, don't betray love by quickly jumping into wrong relationships

12. There is nothing wrong with you when you choose to dress decent in a world where scandalous ways get lots of attention. Don't lower your dignity, and respect for you will pile up. You don't have to use the sex card to get attention. You have a brilliant mind and deep heart; besides, decent is very sexy

13. There is nothing wrong with you if during sex you don't squirt. The ladies who squirt shouldn't make you feel you are missing out. Enjoy your own sexual high, each woman is made differently

14. There is nothing wrong with you if you have haters. They hate you and are jealous of you because of your success and shine. Don't let them distract you, answer their hate with love, win them over with more success and your smile, shine on babe!

We can uplift the woman, without putting down the man.

We can raise a strong girl child, without weakening the boy child.

We can prepare the woman for marriage, and also prepare the man.

We can equip the woman with tools to be a good mother, and also equip the father.

We can care for our daughters, and also our sons.

We can correct the man, and also appreciate him instead of bashing him.

We can correct the woman, and also appreciate her value instead of demeaning her.

We can look after the needs of the woman, without forgetting the needs of the man.

We can see the greatness of men, without judging them all because of the wrongs of a few.

We can see the goodness of women, without forming stereotypes informed by the mistakes of a few.

We can defend the woman, without attacking the man.

We can respect the man, without disrespecting the woman.

We can live in harmony and understanding as men and women, sister and brother, husband and wife

HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR WOMAN'S EMOTIONS

1. Give her eye contact when she is talking to you, it makes her feel important

2. When she is venting, allow her to speak. It is healthy for her not to bottle things inside

3. Touch her. Rub her hand, hold her waist, kiss her. Physical touch is a window to her emotions

4. When she is crying, don't leave the room. Hug her, comfort her, whether she is crying because of you or of another issue

5. Ask her how she is, how she slept, how her day has been. Good morning, good night makes her feel cared for

6. When she is worked up over an issue that you don't find a big deal, don't tell her she is petty. This makes her feel understood

7. Get to know more about the family planning methods she uses. Some of them affect her hormones, her hormones affect her emotions

8. Learn how she behaves during her menstrual cycle. Some women get moody during that time of the month. Study your Queen

9. Love on her publicly and privately. Give her clarity that she is the only one, don't entertain other women. This will make her feel secure

10. Understand when she cries tears of joy. It means alot to her when you touch her heart to the point of tears

11. When she doubts her beauty, remind her of her beautiful and sexy she is

12. When she complains about something don't take it as an offense, she is actually giving you a tip on how to love her better. Make use of the tip so that she won't have to complain again

13. When she is mad and unsettled, don't join her and become mad and unsettled too. Be that calm and assuring voice that makes her feel less defensive and less edgy

14. Appreciate her, tell her thank you and recognise all she does. Sometimes, this is all a woman needs to feel loved

15. Don't emotionally abuse her by speaking words that hurt. Such words can haunt her for years

16. If she doubts you two will last, give her the reassurance that even though you are going through a tough time, you are not letting her go. That alone wll encourage her to stand with you

17. Pray for her in her presence. Many women long that their man would cover them spiritually

18. Don't demand for sex when she is hurting. Doing so will only make her feel used and a sex toy

19. Apologise when you wrong her. Some women's hearts have been broken for years because all they have been waiting for is "I am sorry". Tone down your ego and you will love her emotionally